The first call is a really good chance to make a great first impression. So how can you make a great first impression when you are talking on the phone with a potential date? Here are some tips that will help get you through that nerve wracking first phone call.
Have something to say – Nothing is worse than calling a potential date and not offering any conversation topics and just responding to the other person in monosyllables. It makes you look boring, uninterested, and unattractive.
You know you’re going to be talking to this person so plan out some topics of conversation in advance. They don’t have to be heavy topics, but they should be related to the other person’s interests. Talk about vacation plans, favorite holidays, favorite hobbies, or other areas of common interest.
Know who you’re talking to – If you have contacted or been contacted by several people through the dating service and are planning phone calls with more than one person, make sure that you know which person you are talking to and what their interests are.
Keep a cheat sheet by the phone that has each person’s name and a few details about them like “ Mike – 32, mechanic, likes fishing” or “Natalie, 26, grad student in English” so that you won’t make a mistake.
Ask lots of questions – Asking questions is a great way to get the conversation to flow and to learn more about that other person. Don’t ask the same questions over and over again; that’s creepy. But most people appreciate it when the other person takes an interest in their hobbies, education, or work. Asking questions will also help you get a better idea of what that person is like so that you can decide if you want to meet them for an actual date or not. Let the other person answer the questions fully and don’t interrupt them to say “Me too!” or “wow what did you do then?” No one likes to be interrupted.
When you’re on the phone with someone that you want to date, just use common sense and basic phone etiquette that you would use when you were talking to anyone on the phone. Turn off the TV and radio. Don’t be surfing the net for new dates and trying to talk to a potential date. Don’t interrupt the other person. Don’t be rude. Remember that you are talking to someone that you want to date, not one of your buddies, and act accordingly.
Don’t play phone tag – Even if you’re nervous about making the first call, don’t call when you know the other person won’t be around just so that you can leave a message. This puts the pressure on the other person to call you back. He or she might decide to call you when you’re not available like you did to him or her.
No good relationship can come from games like that. If you don’t want to call the other person then tell him or her that. If you do want to talk to him or her on the phone then call first. Make the first move. But don’t do it when you know that the other person is unavailable like when that person is at work.
Call when you say you will – it’s very important to call on time. If you have made a phone date for Tuesday at 8 pm you need to call Tuesday at 8 pm or call earlier than 8pm and change the time. Don’t wait and call at 9 or 9.30 and expect the other person to talk to you.
You need to show that you really want this phone call to happen. If you want to make a great first impression, calling on time says that you are punctual and responsible and also that you are really interested in getting to know that other person.
Not calling on time says that you are rude, disrespectful, and not that interested. If you don’t call on time or don’t call at all, don’t expect the other person to return any of your emails after that. Chances are good that the other person moved on to someone else.
Know when the call is over - When the conversation starts to have frequent pauses or the conversation isn’t flowing as well as it was then it’s probably time
to end the call. Leaving the other person still wanting to talk with you adds to the mystery and will make that person more interested in you. Plus, you will need to have more things to talk about for the next phone call, or the first date.
Don’t just say, “Well thanks I have to go now,” and hang up. End the call gracefully. Tell the other person you’ve really enjoyed talking with him or her and ask if he or she would like to talk again. If so, you can set up another phone date or suggest that the two of you meet for a real date.
When the other person enjoyed the call as well then you could be well on your way to having a great in person date with that person.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Thursday, July 29, 2010
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I just joined ecademy and meet some awesome people.
come take alook around at http://www.ecademy.com/companies/Heathwise_Solutions
Lets value people for just what they are - unique individuals
Cheers Jean McDowell
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Online Dating, That First Telephone Call
Once you have made contact with someone through email that you think shows some promise, it’s time to think about the next step. Once you feel comfortable with someone in email and possibly in chat, it’s time for a phone conversation.
Is it really important to talk on the phone before you meet? Some people think it is, some people think it isn’t. It’s a good idea just because it is one more process that you can use to weed out someone before you are trapped on a date with that person.
You may have gotten wonderful romantic emails from this person but you don’t know how long it took that person to write the emails, or even if they wrote the emails or if someone else wrote them instead. It’s easy to sound witty and clever and romantic in an email.
When you are talking on the phone with a person, you can tell if that person has decent social skills and can carry on a conversation. The other person may have spent hours writing the emails that turned your head, but when you talk to that person and have a real conversation, you will know if the person is really as funny and witty and clever as the emails made him or her seem.
Talking on the phone will also help you get a better sense of what the other person is really like. It’s difficult to decide if you want to date someone based only on words on a screen. You need to hear the other person’s voice and how they speak in order to know if you’re really interested in meeting them.
, talking on the phone gives you a chance to be more comfortable with that person before you meet for the first time. If someone really wants to meet you but doesn’t want to talk on the phone, it might be a red flag that the person is a bully or worse.
It’s your choice whether you want to talk on the phone with a potential date before meeting him or her in real life but many online dating experts agree that it’s a good idea for many reasons.
So once you have emailed a few times and you feel like there is potential with a particular person, email that person and ask him or her If they agree it’s time for that first phone call and set up a “phone date.”
Is it really important to talk on the phone before you meet? Some people think it is, some people think it isn’t. It’s a good idea just because it is one more process that you can use to weed out someone before you are trapped on a date with that person.
You may have gotten wonderful romantic emails from this person but you don’t know how long it took that person to write the emails, or even if they wrote the emails or if someone else wrote them instead. It’s easy to sound witty and clever and romantic in an email.
When you are talking on the phone with a person, you can tell if that person has decent social skills and can carry on a conversation. The other person may have spent hours writing the emails that turned your head, but when you talk to that person and have a real conversation, you will know if the person is really as funny and witty and clever as the emails made him or her seem.
Talking on the phone will also help you get a better sense of what the other person is really like. It’s difficult to decide if you want to date someone based only on words on a screen. You need to hear the other person’s voice and how they speak in order to know if you’re really interested in meeting them.
, talking on the phone gives you a chance to be more comfortable with that person before you meet for the first time. If someone really wants to meet you but doesn’t want to talk on the phone, it might be a red flag that the person is a bully or worse.
It’s your choice whether you want to talk on the phone with a potential date before meeting him or her in real life but many online dating experts agree that it’s a good idea for many reasons.
So once you have emailed a few times and you feel like there is potential with a particular person, email that person and ask him or her If they agree it’s time for that first phone call and set up a “phone date.”
Saturday, July 24, 2010
Online Dating, IS YOUR ONLINE DATE HIDING SOMETHING?
Those are some of the really obvious red flags that you need to avoid. But some signs that someone might not be a person that you want to have a relationship with are more subtle and may not really come through until you have exchanged a few emails or talked on the phone a few times and are really starting to get to know each other. Here are some clues that your new dating partner might be hiding something from you, like a spouse.
“Don’t call me, I’ll call you” – If you only have one phone number to use to contact your date and he or she says that you should only use that number in case of an emergency or if you call the number and it always goes straight to voicemail, that is not a good sign. Even if the person is not hiding something you should not always have to wait for the other person to call when it’s convenient for him or her.
Calling at odd hours – If your date can only talk to you after 3 AM, or after 8 AM, or calls randomly throughout the day but hangs up quickly, your date might be trying to hide phone calls to you from a spouse or another date.
Staying in all the time – If all of your dates consist of take out and movies at your place then your date might be scared that his or her spouse or someone who knows both of them might see you two out at a restaurant or movie.
Movie and take out dates can be a lot of fun, but if that’s all the two of you ever seem to do then there might be a reason your date wants to stay in all the time.
, if the person you’re dating doesn’t want his or her friends to meet you or resists the idea of parties or other group gatherings, it could be that your new date is trying to hold an old spouse.No family talk – When people are getting to know one another they usually will talk about their families. If your date is hesitant to discuss family details, he or she may be afraid that they will slip up and mention a spouse.
Bring out a photo album of your family and while you are showing off pictures, ask your date if he or she has any family photos that you can see. If the date says no or seems uncomfortable, he or she might be hiding something.
Unwilling to bring you home – If you always meet at your house and the other person seems reluctant or unwilling to take you to his or her place, it could be because there is someone else at home that they don’t want you to know about.
If your new partner is already married or is living with someone and is in a serious relationship then there will be a lot of signs that should give away that fact so keep alert the last thing you want is to give your heart to the wrong person.
“Don’t call me, I’ll call you” – If you only have one phone number to use to contact your date and he or she says that you should only use that number in case of an emergency or if you call the number and it always goes straight to voicemail, that is not a good sign. Even if the person is not hiding something you should not always have to wait for the other person to call when it’s convenient for him or her.
Calling at odd hours – If your date can only talk to you after 3 AM, or after 8 AM, or calls randomly throughout the day but hangs up quickly, your date might be trying to hide phone calls to you from a spouse or another date.
Staying in all the time – If all of your dates consist of take out and movies at your place then your date might be scared that his or her spouse or someone who knows both of them might see you two out at a restaurant or movie.
Movie and take out dates can be a lot of fun, but if that’s all the two of you ever seem to do then there might be a reason your date wants to stay in all the time.
, if the person you’re dating doesn’t want his or her friends to meet you or resists the idea of parties or other group gatherings, it could be that your new date is trying to hold an old spouse.No family talk – When people are getting to know one another they usually will talk about their families. If your date is hesitant to discuss family details, he or she may be afraid that they will slip up and mention a spouse.
Bring out a photo album of your family and while you are showing off pictures, ask your date if he or she has any family photos that you can see. If the date says no or seems uncomfortable, he or she might be hiding something.
Unwilling to bring you home – If you always meet at your house and the other person seems reluctant or unwilling to take you to his or her place, it could be because there is someone else at home that they don’t want you to know about.
If your new partner is already married or is living with someone and is in a serious relationship then there will be a lot of signs that should give away that fact so keep alert the last thing you want is to give your heart to the wrong person.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Online Dating, BULLYING is alive and well online.
It starts out simple like “I sent you an email over an hour ago but you haven’t responded so I’m sending another. I think we should get together tonight. I want to meet in person right away so that neither of us wastes time if there’s no chemistry. Chemistry is very important to me so we should meet tonight, or tomorrow, to find out if we have it or not. I don’t want to waste my time. So call me or email me back immediately please so we can set up a time and place to meet. “
Anyone that sends an email like that to you should be ignored. Clearly, this person is not interested in you at all, and doesn’t care about your thoughts or feelings. The language also shows a very dominant, controlling nature, which is definitely something you want to avoid in a relationship.
Delete these email. Don’t even respond to the person.
NEEDS TOO MUCH PERSONAL INFORMATION
So let’s get things started huh? What’s your full name? Where do you live? Do you own or rent? Let’s go out to dinner. I’ll call ahead and make reservations but they might require a credit card number to hold the reservation and I don’t have a credit card. Can we use yours? Send me your credit card number, expiration date and security code and I’ll make the reservation. I’ll pay for dinner, but I was planning to pay with cash. Send that info to me ASAP so I can make the reservation before they fill up!”
Anytime that someone asks for any personal information but especially personal financial information, you know that person is up to no good. No one that really wants to date you is going to ask you for your financial history or your credit card or bank account information. This is a new twist on the classic scam of making a date with someone and then “forgetting” to bring a wallet with cash or a credit card.
It’s been said before but it’s worth repeating. Never give out your personal information online, especially financial information. If you are really concerned or if you want to be sure that the person writing you is trustworthy before you date them, consider having a background check done. You can have a background check done online if you know the person’s name and address. It’s an inexpensive way to get some peace of mind.
Anyone that sends an email like that to you should be ignored. Clearly, this person is not interested in you at all, and doesn’t care about your thoughts or feelings. The language also shows a very dominant, controlling nature, which is definitely something you want to avoid in a relationship.
Delete these email. Don’t even respond to the person.
NEEDS TOO MUCH PERSONAL INFORMATION
So let’s get things started huh? What’s your full name? Where do you live? Do you own or rent? Let’s go out to dinner. I’ll call ahead and make reservations but they might require a credit card number to hold the reservation and I don’t have a credit card. Can we use yours? Send me your credit card number, expiration date and security code and I’ll make the reservation. I’ll pay for dinner, but I was planning to pay with cash. Send that info to me ASAP so I can make the reservation before they fill up!”
Anytime that someone asks for any personal information but especially personal financial information, you know that person is up to no good. No one that really wants to date you is going to ask you for your financial history or your credit card or bank account information. This is a new twist on the classic scam of making a date with someone and then “forgetting” to bring a wallet with cash or a credit card.
It’s been said before but it’s worth repeating. Never give out your personal information online, especially financial information. If you are really concerned or if you want to be sure that the person writing you is trustworthy before you date them, consider having a background check done. You can have a background check done online if you know the person’s name and address. It’s an inexpensive way to get some peace of mind.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Online Dating, Look Out for GRAPHIC EMAILS
“I’m very into alternative lifestyles, are you? I really like to explore boundaries. Have you been with a lot of people in the past? What kinds of things are you into? We should go out and talk about some of our interests. There’s a club in town having a bondage night next week; let’s go to that and you should wear some leather. I bet you’d look hot in it!”
If the first email that you get from someone is full of sexual innuendo or asks a lot of very personal questions about sex and your sexual preferences, that is a huge red flag.
Someone who is really interested a relationship with you would never ask those kinds of questions. Obviously, someone whose first email to you is full of graphic language is only looking for one thing. Delete those emails immediately unless that is the kind of relationship you’re looking for.
The email doesn’t have to be graphic to make you uncomfortable. Any email that asks any questions that seem overly invasive or personal to you should just be deleted.
Too Much Information
“So anyway I was just laid off from my job as a CSR and I’m not quite sure how I’m going to swing rent this month. Good thing I don’t have my kids for a few weeks because I’m not sure I’ll have anyplace for them to sleep. Ha ha! But I’d really like for us to meet, although you might have to pay for dinner because I’m pretty broke right now. If this sounds good to you write me back!”
Anyone that writes you a book length email detailing all their problems with their job, ex-spouse, kids, life in general, health problems, financial problems, or other negative things is not someone you want to date. Anyone that gives out too much personal information in their first email is someone you should avoid.
If the first email that you get from someone is full of sexual innuendo or asks a lot of very personal questions about sex and your sexual preferences, that is a huge red flag.
Someone who is really interested a relationship with you would never ask those kinds of questions. Obviously, someone whose first email to you is full of graphic language is only looking for one thing. Delete those emails immediately unless that is the kind of relationship you’re looking for.
The email doesn’t have to be graphic to make you uncomfortable. Any email that asks any questions that seem overly invasive or personal to you should just be deleted.
Too Much Information
“So anyway I was just laid off from my job as a CSR and I’m not quite sure how I’m going to swing rent this month. Good thing I don’t have my kids for a few weeks because I’m not sure I’ll have anyplace for them to sleep. Ha ha! But I’d really like for us to meet, although you might have to pay for dinner because I’m pretty broke right now. If this sounds good to you write me back!”
Anyone that writes you a book length email detailing all their problems with their job, ex-spouse, kids, life in general, health problems, financial problems, or other negative things is not someone you want to date. Anyone that gives out too much personal information in their first email is someone you should avoid.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Online Dating, Is Your Online Date a Player?
Now not everyone that you meet through an online dating service is going to be player, or a jerk, or someone who isn’t interested in finding a long term relationship but some of them definitely are. You need to be wary of dating a new person just like you would be if you were meeting someone to date in a more traditional way.
Wyou meet someone in a more traditional way, there will be clues that the other person is hiding something from you or that something is just not right on their end. The person might be married, might be just looking for sex, or might just have his or her own agenda and not really be interested in relationships. There are a lot of reasons that people might use an online dating service even if they are not that interested in a relationship.
It’s important to stress that you are not more likely to end up having a player answer your online dating ad than you are likely to meet one in a bar or somewhere else. Players are everywhere, and if you are not looking for a serious relationship then that might be the perfect partner for you.
But if you are looking for a serious relationship, it would be upsetting to start dating someone and start to develop feelings for that person only to find out that the person is married, emotionally unavailable, or just a jerk that isn’t really worth your time.
Usually, you don’t have to wait to find out if your online date is a player, a jerk, or has some issues. There are always clues in the person’s profile that will let you know what the person is really like. If the profile seems fine then read carefully through the email that he or she sent to you.
When you are reading the other persons words, look closely for phrases that might indicate trouble. Language that seems overly bitter, hostile or mean is a red flag that the person might have anger issues. Giving out too much personal information, like listing the medications they are taking, can also be a red flag.
Let’s look at some of the other red flags that should tell you that you need to be wary of someone when you’re trying online dating.
Even the most sophisticated player will leave clues to their intentions somewhere in their online communication. Some will be very blatant, and some will be subtle and much harder to spot.
Here are some of the most common situations you will find online that should always raise red flags in your mind.
Not everyone who sets off a red flag is going to be someone that is trying to hoodwink you, but it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Here are some red
Too Much Too Fast
“Wow! As soon as I saw your photo I knew you were the one for me! You are fabulous! Are you smart? You sound smart too. I bet our children will be gorgeous and smart. Won’t we make a great family? Let’s meet as soon as possible. I just know you’re the one for me!”
If you receive an email from someone in response to your online profile and the person starts talking about how he or she fell in love with your photo, or knew from the words that you wrote that you two were meant to be, or uses other language that indicates the person has a great depth of feeling for you, this is a red flag.
Using language like that is inappropriate for a first email and indicates that the person might not be completely stable. Delete the email or reply with a simple “Thank you, but I’m not interested.”
BAD LANGUAGE AND GRAMMAR
“ RU usd to dating online? I have never done it much. It seeks pretty kool so far but hu nows? U should rite back soon so we can get to now each other better”
Now everyone makes mistakes, at times, when typing and not everyone majored in English in college, but if you receive an email from someone that is full of curse words and has a lot of glaring grammar mistakes and misused words, that is a red flag.
Regardless of the person,s education level, you don’t want to be with someone who can’t express him or herself without using curse words or using words incorrectly. It says that the person isn’t going to be able to communicate well in a relationship.
Sending emails full of mistakes also says that the person either doesn’t know how to use a spell check or doesn’t care enough to use it. Either way, someone who puts little or no effort into making a good first impression isn’t someone that you would want to date.
Wyou meet someone in a more traditional way, there will be clues that the other person is hiding something from you or that something is just not right on their end. The person might be married, might be just looking for sex, or might just have his or her own agenda and not really be interested in relationships. There are a lot of reasons that people might use an online dating service even if they are not that interested in a relationship.
It’s important to stress that you are not more likely to end up having a player answer your online dating ad than you are likely to meet one in a bar or somewhere else. Players are everywhere, and if you are not looking for a serious relationship then that might be the perfect partner for you.
But if you are looking for a serious relationship, it would be upsetting to start dating someone and start to develop feelings for that person only to find out that the person is married, emotionally unavailable, or just a jerk that isn’t really worth your time.
Usually, you don’t have to wait to find out if your online date is a player, a jerk, or has some issues. There are always clues in the person’s profile that will let you know what the person is really like. If the profile seems fine then read carefully through the email that he or she sent to you.
When you are reading the other persons words, look closely for phrases that might indicate trouble. Language that seems overly bitter, hostile or mean is a red flag that the person might have anger issues. Giving out too much personal information, like listing the medications they are taking, can also be a red flag.
Let’s look at some of the other red flags that should tell you that you need to be wary of someone when you’re trying online dating.
Even the most sophisticated player will leave clues to their intentions somewhere in their online communication. Some will be very blatant, and some will be subtle and much harder to spot.
Here are some of the most common situations you will find online that should always raise red flags in your mind.
Not everyone who sets off a red flag is going to be someone that is trying to hoodwink you, but it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Here are some red
Too Much Too Fast
“Wow! As soon as I saw your photo I knew you were the one for me! You are fabulous! Are you smart? You sound smart too. I bet our children will be gorgeous and smart. Won’t we make a great family? Let’s meet as soon as possible. I just know you’re the one for me!”
If you receive an email from someone in response to your online profile and the person starts talking about how he or she fell in love with your photo, or knew from the words that you wrote that you two were meant to be, or uses other language that indicates the person has a great depth of feeling for you, this is a red flag.
Using language like that is inappropriate for a first email and indicates that the person might not be completely stable. Delete the email or reply with a simple “Thank you, but I’m not interested.”
BAD LANGUAGE AND GRAMMAR
“ RU usd to dating online? I have never done it much. It seeks pretty kool so far but hu nows? U should rite back soon so we can get to now each other better”
Now everyone makes mistakes, at times, when typing and not everyone majored in English in college, but if you receive an email from someone that is full of curse words and has a lot of glaring grammar mistakes and misused words, that is a red flag.
Regardless of the person,s education level, you don’t want to be with someone who can’t express him or herself without using curse words or using words incorrectly. It says that the person isn’t going to be able to communicate well in a relationship.
Sending emails full of mistakes also says that the person either doesn’t know how to use a spell check or doesn’t care enough to use it. Either way, someone who puts little or no effort into making a good first impression isn’t someone that you would want to date.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Online Dating, Flirting Through Email
As soon as you have established email communication with a person that you might want to date, it’s time to try flirting a little through email. Flirting through email can be a little tricky because it’s sometimes hard to pick up the context of words on a screen but if you practice a little you can get the hang of it.
The key to being flirtatious through email is to really let your sense of humor show through. If your email flirting is really well done, the other person will be charmed and intrigued and will want to know more about you.
Humor is attractive and lightens up the interaction. Using humor, you can deflect any potentially awkward questions and you can also show that you can laugh at yourself and are approachable.
When you add a flirtatious note to your emails, it’s important not to be overly provocative. Asking a slight offbeat question with a romantic overtone is more flirtatious than a blatant sexual innuendo.
The best online flirting is warm and personal and sincere. For example, if your potential date has mentioned in a previous email that he or she has a hidden passion for playing the guitar instead of saying that playing the guitar is an interesting hobby, say that you love it that he or she plays the guitar because the guitar is such a passionate instrument.
If you get stuck when you are trying to think of some appropriately flirtatious questions that you can ask in an email, try asking one of these questions:
• If you could take a date anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
• What is the most romantic film you’ve ever seen?
• If you could only tell your date one thing about you to make them fall for you what would it be?
• What is your perfect date?
• What activities do you like to do on dates?
• What’s the most romantic story you’ve ever heard?
So have some fun, but stay safe.
The key to being flirtatious through email is to really let your sense of humor show through. If your email flirting is really well done, the other person will be charmed and intrigued and will want to know more about you.
Humor is attractive and lightens up the interaction. Using humor, you can deflect any potentially awkward questions and you can also show that you can laugh at yourself and are approachable.
When you add a flirtatious note to your emails, it’s important not to be overly provocative. Asking a slight offbeat question with a romantic overtone is more flirtatious than a blatant sexual innuendo.
The best online flirting is warm and personal and sincere. For example, if your potential date has mentioned in a previous email that he or she has a hidden passion for playing the guitar instead of saying that playing the guitar is an interesting hobby, say that you love it that he or she plays the guitar because the guitar is such a passionate instrument.
If you get stuck when you are trying to think of some appropriately flirtatious questions that you can ask in an email, try asking one of these questions:
• If you could take a date anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
• What is the most romantic film you’ve ever seen?
• If you could only tell your date one thing about you to make them fall for you what would it be?
• What is your perfect date?
• What activities do you like to do on dates?
• What’s the most romantic story you’ve ever heard?
So have some fun, but stay safe.
Monday, July 5, 2010
Online Dating, EMAIL ETIQUETTE-Do Keep in Mind that Your email is representing who you are.
Do Keep in Mind that Your email is representing who you are.
When you are writing your email you want to write in such a way that you are showing qualities like:
Warmth
A sense of humor
A strong imagination
Confidence in yourself
Goals and Aspirations
Individuality
The ability to communicate well
Creativity
Kindness and tolerance
You never want your email to make you seem like you are:
Self-centered
Close minded or judgmental
Negative about life
Immature
Manipulative
Materialistic
Shallow
So think before you press the send button.
When you are communicating through email, there are certain rules of etiquette that you should follow, especially when you want to make a good impression.
Writing a good email is important because it is usually what gives a new prospective date his or her first impression of you.
Here are some of the basic rules of email etiquette that you should follow when you are communicating by email:
• Use the same structure you would use for a letter
• Always use a spell check before you hit “send”
• Watch your grammar and punctuation
• Write in several small paragraphs instead of one large one
• Don’t request delivery and read receipts
• Keep your sentences short and to the point
Write in text and not HTML
• Don’t attach files unless the person you are emailing requested them
• Don’t keep sending emails if you don’t get a response right away
• Keep the tone of your writing warm but polite
• Don’t curse or swear
• Don’t use fancy fonts or insert pictures or animations
• Don’t use all capital letters
When you’re writing an email to someone on an online dating site, write it the same way you would write a business email. That will make a better impression than writing it the same way you would have write an email to your best friend since high school.
When you are writing your email you want to write in such a way that you are showing qualities like:
Warmth
A sense of humor
A strong imagination
Confidence in yourself
Goals and Aspirations
Individuality
The ability to communicate well
Creativity
Kindness and tolerance
You never want your email to make you seem like you are:
Self-centered
Close minded or judgmental
Negative about life
Immature
Manipulative
Materialistic
Shallow
So think before you press the send button.
When you are communicating through email, there are certain rules of etiquette that you should follow, especially when you want to make a good impression.
Writing a good email is important because it is usually what gives a new prospective date his or her first impression of you.
Here are some of the basic rules of email etiquette that you should follow when you are communicating by email:
• Use the same structure you would use for a letter
• Always use a spell check before you hit “send”
• Watch your grammar and punctuation
• Write in several small paragraphs instead of one large one
• Don’t request delivery and read receipts
• Keep your sentences short and to the point
Write in text and not HTML
• Don’t attach files unless the person you are emailing requested them
• Don’t keep sending emails if you don’t get a response right away
• Keep the tone of your writing warm but polite
• Don’t curse or swear
• Don’t use fancy fonts or insert pictures or animations
• Don’t use all capital letters
When you’re writing an email to someone on an online dating site, write it the same way you would write a business email. That will make a better impression than writing it the same way you would have write an email to your best friend since high school.
Saturday, July 3, 2010
Online Dating, HOW TO MAKE A GREAT FIRST IMPRESSION THROUGH EMAIL
An important person you find interesting has answered your great personal ad online. Now it’s up to you to send a great email in response; one that will make that person really want to know more about you. How can you create a great first impression using email? Here are some Do’s and Don’ts to help you write a great first email.
Don’t answer right away take some time to really craft your email to the new potential date. Have someone else read a draft of it before you send it and always use spell check before you send it. Make sure that your spelling and punctuation are correct. Just like in a resume, people look at spelling and punctuation.
Don’t make it too long as you don’t need to tell this person your entire life’s story. Write a few short paragraphs only. Reiterate key points from your profile, ask some questions for the other person to answer, and graciously end the email.
Do make it interesting and if you can’t think of anything interesting to say about yourself, why would the other person want to keep communicating with you? Mention a hobby, tell a funny anecdote, and write about something unusual you can do, whatever you do, write something that shows off how interesting and unique you are.
Do ask about the other person
Only writing about yourself is boring, and makes you look like you are self-centered. For every question that the other person asked you, ask one back. So if the other person asks where you are from in their email, write about where you are from and ask where the other person is from, or ask how long he or she lived there, or some other relevant question.
Asking questions will help you get to know the other person and will also show the other person that you are interested in hearing what they have to say.
Relationships are a two way street and it’s important to show from the beginning that you are comfortable driving on a two way street and don’t keep trying to make it a one way street where everything is about you.
Don’t make sexual references or other inappropriate comments. You don’t even know this person yet. The first email is not the time to discuss your sexual preferences, past sexual experiences, or anything related to sex.
Don’t get too personal. This is the first communication you are having with a potential date. It’s like the first conversation you have with someone in a bar or other meeting place. While you might be worried about your mortgage payment or how you are going to care for your sick mother, don’t mention that in the email. Keep your personal items to yourself until later on in the relationship.
Don’t answer right away take some time to really craft your email to the new potential date. Have someone else read a draft of it before you send it and always use spell check before you send it. Make sure that your spelling and punctuation are correct. Just like in a resume, people look at spelling and punctuation.
Don’t make it too long as you don’t need to tell this person your entire life’s story. Write a few short paragraphs only. Reiterate key points from your profile, ask some questions for the other person to answer, and graciously end the email.
Do make it interesting and if you can’t think of anything interesting to say about yourself, why would the other person want to keep communicating with you? Mention a hobby, tell a funny anecdote, and write about something unusual you can do, whatever you do, write something that shows off how interesting and unique you are.
Do ask about the other person
Only writing about yourself is boring, and makes you look like you are self-centered. For every question that the other person asked you, ask one back. So if the other person asks where you are from in their email, write about where you are from and ask where the other person is from, or ask how long he or she lived there, or some other relevant question.
Asking questions will help you get to know the other person and will also show the other person that you are interested in hearing what they have to say.
Relationships are a two way street and it’s important to show from the beginning that you are comfortable driving on a two way street and don’t keep trying to make it a one way street where everything is about you.
Don’t make sexual references or other inappropriate comments. You don’t even know this person yet. The first email is not the time to discuss your sexual preferences, past sexual experiences, or anything related to sex.
Don’t get too personal. This is the first communication you are having with a potential date. It’s like the first conversation you have with someone in a bar or other meeting place. While you might be worried about your mortgage payment or how you are going to care for your sick mother, don’t mention that in the email. Keep your personal items to yourself until later on in the relationship.
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