Online Dating, We need to be able to learn from rejection

Instead of dwelling on the fact that one of the people you were interested in online rejected you, it would be better to use your energy to figure out why they rejected you and work on correcting it.
Maybe there was no problem; maybe it just wasn’t mean to be. That could certainly be the case. That is just a part of life and you need to just move on. But maybe there was something you could have done differently that would have improved your chances.
If you have been rejected a lot and you want to know if there is something that you’re doing that is off-putting to your dates, ask a friend to go on a ‘date’ with you. Dress and act exactly like you would if you were meeting that friend for the first time. Your friend can let you know if you are not coming across as confident, or if your clothes send the wrong message, or if there are other things you can do to present yourself in a better way.
That might seem silly at first, but think about it. What better way to get an idea of how you come across on a date than to have one of your friends tell you their opinion? It can be a great learning tool.
For other useful tools to help you learn more about online dating, look on the website of the online dating service that you use. Many of the online dating services offer an entire library of helpful articles, advice columns, quizzes, and other tools to help their members create great profiles and plan great dates.
If you are still having trouble figuring out why the other person didn’t want to see you, it might be a good idea to ask him or her. Just ask once, and if you don’t get a response don’t push the issue but it might be helpful to hear directly from him or her why they didn’t want to go on another date with you.
Just be sure that if you do ask for honest feedback that you’re ready to handle it. You might get back an answer you don’t want to hear like “You’re too fat” or “You’re too skinny” or “You were boring.” Those things can be painful to hear.
Try not to see the rejection as a personal insult but as a learning experience and it will be much easier to move on. Take comfort in knowing that everyone gets rejected, many times, and that eventually, if you keep going you can find someone who loves you because you’re you.