An important person you find interesting has answered your great personal ad online. Now it’s up to you to send a great email in response; one that will make that person really want to know more about you. How can you create a great first impression using email? Here are some Do’s and Don’ts to help you write a great first email.
Don’t answer right away take some time to really craft your email to the new potential date. Have someone else read a draft of it before you send it and always use spell check before you send it. Make sure that your spelling and punctuation are correct. Just like in a resume, people look at spelling and punctuation.
Don’t make it too long as you don’t need to tell this person your entire life’s story. Write a few short paragraphs only. Reiterate key points from your profile, ask some questions for the other person to answer, and graciously end the email.
Do make it interesting and if you can’t think of anything interesting to say about yourself, why would the other person want to keep communicating with you? Mention a hobby, tell a funny anecdote, and write about something unusual you can do, whatever you do, write something that shows off how interesting and unique you are.
Do ask about the other person
Only writing about yourself is boring, and makes you look like you are self-centered. For every question that the other person asked you, ask one back. So if the other person asks where you are from in their email, write about where you are from and ask where the other person is from, or ask how long he or she lived there, or some other relevant question.
Asking questions will help you get to know the other person and will also show the other person that you are interested in hearing what they have to say.
Relationships are a two way street and it’s important to show from the beginning that you are comfortable driving on a two way street and don’t keep trying to make it a one way street where everything is about you.
Don’t make sexual references or other inappropriate comments. You don’t even know this person yet. The first email is not the time to discuss your sexual preferences, past sexual experiences, or anything related to sex.
Don’t get too personal. This is the first communication you are having with a potential date. It’s like the first conversation you have with someone in a bar or other meeting place. While you might be worried about your mortgage payment or how you are going to care for your sick mother, don’t mention that in the email. Keep your personal items to yourself until later on in the relationship.
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